“Women still remember the first kiss after men have forgotten the last” ~Remy de Gourmont
The nice thing about having male friends is that occasionally you can call on them to give you the man's perspective in relationships. Yes, I do often ask my husband for that POV, but believe it or not, not all men are created the same, and they do think and act differently. Plus I think my male friends can be a little more honest because, you know, they don't have to live in the same house with me!
Anyway, I asked one of my friends what a guy thinks about (besides the obvious) when he's first getting to know a woman. This was his response:
He replays every thing he has said in his mind, wondering if he might have said anything "wrong". He thinks about what he should have said to make himself sound more (the things she likes) intelligent, more or less aggressive, more in tune to her. He thinks about the things she has done, said, worn, and smiled at and imagines future situations where he can recall them, knowing these things are pleasing to her in such a way to generate a smile. He wonders if it is real? He thinks about the things in his past that have generated pain in other relationships and does his best to avoid them. He thinks about her flaws and imagines whether or not they are big enough to prevent going further. He wonders if he should wait to call her or if she will call him. he thinks about what it is he can do to impress her, but not in a way to seem too forward. He thinks about his flaws and wonders if she will like him once she is made aware....
Kind of poetic, huh? And lots of information there for a writer to draw upon, too. Seriously, talk to your friends when you're carving out relationships: male, female, young, old, straight, gay...there's such a wealth of experience and advice out there you can draw upon!