Monday, April 04, 2011

Monday Mentionables: What Women (Don't) Want

"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." ~Dr. Seuss

In various conversations over the weekend, I discovered some interesting facts about women. Well, certain women anyway. I have a friend who's 40, owns her own business, has 3 beautiful children, a great marriage, is in shape, and used to model. We were talking about upoming vacations, and she said how she wished she had the courage to travel somewhere by herself.


Now, I might *prefer* to have someone with me when I travel, especially when I fly, since I get nervous at takeoff and landing, but I would never think twice about going someone alone, if I really wanted to. Actually, 2 weeks ago I flew to Alabama to visit a girlfriend there. Alone.

Another day, a women at the gym complimented my hairstyle and said, "I would have loved the courage to cut my hair short, but...I don't know. Men always tell you they like it long."


I had a hair appointment yesterday, and when I told my stylist, she said, "Oh, you wouldn't believe the things I hear from women, about how they won't/can't change their hairstyle, because their husband/boyfriend/family won't like it. I always say, well, what would YOU like?"

And it was all just very interesting for me because I was raised to be my own person and have my own thoughts and opinions and not be afraid to do or say things (thanks, Mom!). I mean, we all have fears. I just never realized that so many women (a) feared traveling alone and (b) feared making changes to their appearance because of a man's reaction. I was going to start this blog post by saying that it had nothing to do with writing...but life always does, doesn't it? Maybe I just found inspiration for a new character or two.......

Happy Monday!


Mom said...

Yeah, if you're comfortable with yourself there is really nothing to fear!

Love, Mom

Liz said...

Funny story: I get my hair cut short for the first time in years and my husband said all the right things BUT a week later we are sitting at the table and he is flipping thru a Victoria Secret catalog and he says, "She looks like you." (And I'm all like awwwW) then he adds, "you know before you cut your hair.". LOL!

Charity Tahmaseb said...

This is a little mind boggling. Of course, I traveled by myself from Paris to Stockholm, on the train, when I was sixteen.

I traveled a bunch of places by myself when I was stationed in Germany as well.

Now clearly you need to be safe. And there were some things I didn't do simply because they happened at night and I was alone.

But I can't imagine not going somewhere because I didn't have someone to travel with me.

JL Walters said...

Like the idea of being ones self. Have had short hair for years but remember the first time I had hair that hung to my waist cut. From there to short and curly. Came home and my son who was six looked at me and said, "You're not my mother." One can get ideas for new characters from the air.

Diane Craver said...

Great post, Allie!

My husband hates it when I get a permanent - I love curly hair. He's different, too, in that he likes my hair short and I like it longer. I have traveled myself by plane so that's interesting what you said about your friend.

Sounds like you have some great ideas for your writing!